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Have you ever known someone who, no matter what, could always manage to find the crap-side of things? You know the type of person. If it was a perfectly beautiful, sunny day on the beach, this person would find something to nitpick at until your ears bleed. If you do know someone like this, then you know just how talented they can be at being discontent with perfectly wonderful circumstances. I call these people hell-bent malcontents. While this article isn’t specifically about them, they are a good example of a streak we all have within us.

Hell-bent malcontents actively seek…


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As a White guy, I won’t profess to be an authority on something as big as national racial tension, but as an American who takes full responsibility for my citizenship, I feel responsible to speak up. That puts me — and many like me — in a difficult place: I need to speak up, but I’m not sure what to say. So, I’m saying something that I feel is the most important thing any of us need to hear.

Before I go on, some of my words may piss you off. My attitude may piss you off. My ignorance may…


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This article is a slight departure from my nicey-feel-good-life-wisdom articles. I need a break from the norm. I’m hoping you do too. And while the new norm may feel pretty darn uncomfortable and weird, there IS some wisdom and positivity to be gained from it.

My grandfather used to say that good things take time, but great things happen all at once. ~Rat Race

We live in Coronaworld, now. It is one of the biggest, fastest paradigm shifts our world has experienced since 9/11. It’s such a pronounced shift that ‘Corona’ is a household word. Corona culture dictates that everything…


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Few events are powerful enough to change the world in just a little time. Crises like wars and natural disasters can rock the entire world and transform our realities literally overnight. The current pandemic has created an indelible shift in our lives and our culture. One of the toughest things people are facing right now is ourselves. We are being forced to see ourselves in ways we might call…unflattering? Personal flaws, weaknesses, dysfunctional life tools, ignorance, bad attitudes. Personal traits and behaviors we thought were okay and normal are proving to be disastrous. …


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I came from an abusive, troubled and emotionally devastating childhood. I won’t bore you with details. The point is that, as an adult, I sought inner peace and happiness like many people. And like many people, my path was thorny, painful, rocky, dark and awkward. To get to happiness and peace I had to heal mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

At first, I wasn’t really in touch with my emotions. I felt numb, like my emotions were always just out of reach. I don’t know why, specifically, but I wanted to feel my feelings. Even if they were painful. I must…


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As I lie in bed this morning, I have one of those moments people yearn, struggle, strive, wish, hope and dream of — a perfect moment. A perfectly peaceful moment. It’s early, but not too early. I have time to relax. No pressures to get up or try — hopelessly — to grab just a little more sleep. Even the amount of morning light is perfect. A dove gently warbles outside my window, and…

I am perfectly at peace. I didn’t have to work for this moment or schedule it into my day. It just happened. Normally, on a Saturday…


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Everyone feels fear. Fear is one of the earliest, primal emotions meant to preserve life. Most creatures that experience fear instinctively know how to process it so they can move on with life in relative peace and harmony.

Humans are a little different. We have the ability to hang on to fear. We can bury it, avoid it, deny it and hold on to it so that, rather than processing it, it continues to haunt and torment us. Our fears can accumulate into hypervigilance and anxiety. We can re-traumatize ourselves with memories of the painful past and dread of the…


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How can positivity be negative?!

I first became aware of the concept of positive attitudes in middle school. I remember it clearly because our whole school had an assembly about it. They had brought in some guy who looked like he was straight out of the military — buzz cut, leathery tanned skin, hardened stance, the whole nine yards. He was there to drill some positivity into us kids.

“PMA,” he called it. “Positive Mental Attitude.” This is the part that stuck out the most. Sure, positive mindset was new to me, but I was shocked that it had already been systematized into textbook precision…


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You CAN be happy, even if you don’t feel like it.

Too often we confuse happiness with an emotion. We do the same thing with love. We confuse love with romance, attraction, and infatuation. By misunderstanding what love truly is, we chase after it and are usually met with a string of disappointments. We do the same thing with happiness. We misunderstand it, so we chase after it only to find it fleeting. Just as true love is far more than a hormonal mating ritual, happiness is far more than a transitory emotion.

True happiness is a perspective, a philosophy and a way of life that exists no matter how we…


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What is happiness? Nearly everyone is seeking it, but if you take an honest look at the world, it seems very few people are actually finding it. Why? Is happiness such a mysterious thing? Maybe. I mean, everyone you ask will give you a different definition of happiness. So, who is right? Is anyone right? Is anyone wrong?

To some degree, happiness is relative. It will look different for each individual depending on their life story and personality. Yet, happiness is consistent enough that we can discuss it intelligently, tangibly… and fruitfully.

The greatest obstacles to happiness are our misunderstandings…

PJ Ferguson

Happiness isn’t just an emotion — it’s a way of life. Join me at thehappierlife.com

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